For the love of self; Don't lose your identity

As we journey through life, we meet people from different country, culture, and background that's variation and that's what make each and everyone of us unique.

We sometimes meet people we so much admire and wish to be like; is quite understandable, we want to have a role model someone we can look up to; observe them, learn from them, but don’t try to be like them. Learn their skills but then implement them in your own life and move forward on your own road. Because you are walking your own road, you cannot follow the footsteps of somebody else, nor can someone else walk your road for you. They have their road, you have yours. Imagine if we all act and do things the same way the world will be a boring place, our differences is what makes us unique.

Why strive to be like someone else? They already exist. If the creator wanted two identical colleagues, then He would have created a copy of the first. Instead of copying an existing model, He created a whole new YOU! Why? Because He needs you to be just the way you are! Why bother and try to be somebody else?

 You are unique. There is no-one in the world quite like you. Your personality, your interests, your skills and talents, your memories, your background – all of those combine to make one very special person. You.

It might not always seem that way. Perhaps you think you've got nothing in particular to offer the world. Maybe you don’t feel unique, you feel anonymous.

The truth though, is that you do have an incredible amount of potential. If you feel as though you’re not getting anywhere in life, perhaps you’re trying to make the wrong changes. To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.

When you meet someone special, it's natural to want to please that person. But while compromise is necessary to a successful relationship, you should never feel like you have to give up your individuality. This will only lead to resentment down the road.

Many people fear the idea of being alone or losing someone they care about so much that they're willing to do anything they can to hang on to a relationship, even if the relationship is weak and it means losing themselves in the process. To them, any type of relationship is better than none.

Loss of identify usually starts slowly. You may act differently when you're with your partner or hide pieces of your personality you're not sure they'll like. As time goes on, who you are is cast aside in favor of the person you think they want you to be. As you worry that they love the person you've become, not the person you are, you may start to resent your partner and the relationship you initially worked so hard to keep.

If your partner asks you to change or act differently, ask yourself will the change better your relationship? More importantly, do you want to make a change? Learning something new that is important to your partner, like trying a new sport or different types of food, or dressing differently  is important. Just make sure you are also introducing your partner to things that you like to do and places you like to go. You won't lose sight of who you are by making small concessions here and there, providing you are at home with it,  but you should be on the lookout for requests that have you acting differently or have your friends and people you trust telling you that "you've changed" and it isn't for the best.

People think that the most painful thing in life is losing the one you value; the truth is the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of valuing someone too much forgetting your special too.

In conclusion:

Your identity should be so secure that when someone walks out from you, they don't take you with them.